Casual Sex Dating has increasingly become popular in Australia

Instant gratification in online dating

Years ago, online dating became popular all-over the world and it caught up fast here in Australia. With the fascination and obsession of the world with instant gratification, such as instant food, beauty, fitness etc, it was foreseeable that online dating, the “instant” version of meeting new people, emerged. It acted as a way to instantly gratify the need and want for feelings of butterflies in the stomach and having someone to talk to, without the need to dress up, get up and search outside. This was also the answer to the busy schedules that made it almost impossible to make time to meet new people.

The days when couples who met online make-up stories about how they met are (almost) over as people are now more accepting and open about online dating.

Casual Dating = Clarity about sexual intentions

A new trend that is progressing is “Casual Dating”. Casual dating is almost like online dating, just that it focuses on the motivation of casual sex.

However, there are no hard rules in casual dating- anything can happen during and after the date, but nothing needs to happen. Simply put, you make the rules! If you want to do it, then do it… If you don’t, then don’t.

Australians are not big on rules and are typically more flexible especially when it comes to dating. This flexibility is translated into the way Australians look for partners, whether it may be for a committed relationship, for enjoyable company or for purely sexual or erotic adventures. Casual dating made a way for like-minded Australians to find each other and then explore and experiment to see where it goes. If it remains as a purely sexual relationship in nature or evolves into a committed and long-term relationship is not restricted and completely up to their individual and mutual decisions.

However, unlike the private sex portals where people are more direct and connect just to meet briefly for sexual purposes, casual dating sites allow for a filtered search for an appropriate fit or match. With casual dating sites, you will know from the start whether or not they are looking for the same things sexually or otherwise.

There are, of course, cons in using these sites as well. However, the advantages far outweigh the disadvantages.

Pros

Here are just some of the obvious advantages of using casual dating sites:

• It provides a fast and direct way of meeting people
• It is based on authenticity, as long as both parties are truthful.
• There are no obligations and pressure
• There is a decreased chance of being disappointed because of having less, or no, expectations.

Cons

Unfortunately for the match seekers, some casual dating sites are not reliable in terms of keeping their promises. Many of the sites prove to become scams and damage the over-all reputation of casual dating sites, at the expense of the other reputable ones. In choosing the perfect dating portal, we must be discerning enough to know which deliver their promises of providing private meetings for matched members and which will just lead us to unwanted websites such as porn sites. We should be wary of those which are bridges to viruses, spam and malware instead of to our expected partner. Usually, the free sites are the ones with this type of unexpected suspicious and malicious methods.

Criteria for successful matches

These following criteria have been proved to be crucial for the success in finding someone at a casual dating portal.

Quantity

Quantity of Members

This one is crucial because as much as we live by the saying “Quality over quantity”, especially in terms of relationships, the higher the number of members in your vicinity, the better your chance will be at finding your match. For a faster and more accurate hunt for a suitable partner, look for dating sites with a lot of members in your vicinity or country Australia.  

Quantity of Search functions

If you were only able to search based on sex or gender, then that would be really limiting because it will not take into account the various sexual preferences you might have such as group sex, threesomes etc. Could you also exclude those partners who live in a particular town, or those with the names the same as your ex? Could you search within your vicinity and limit the miles you have to travel to meet up?

Quality

Quality of Communication Functions

There is no point in joining in a site wherein it takes months for you to contact other members. If you cannot find someone quickly and message them easily when you want to, then it might just be better to just look for someone offline, like in a bar or café. The quality and user-friendliness of the communication functions of the site is definitely the most important factor in looking for a casual dating site. Also, the ability to block off stalkers and members who harass you is non-negotiable.

Confidentiality and security

While it is top priority to find someone or to get found by someone with the same goals as you, you would not want someone else outside of the portals to find you! Before joining and signing up, you have to know if the site protects the anonymity of its users or if it (gasp!) sells your information to others sites! We give you a lowdown on which sites properly handle the profile data of their users.

From these criteria of quantity and quality, plus many more additional factors, we chose and evaluated the available dating sites and have come up with test reports comparing them for your benefit. The winners based on these criteria are listed above and you might want to take a look at these reports before signing up!

An increasing number of women decide to sign up on casual sex sites in Australia

Is Casual Dating also Suitable for Women?

This question is somewhat surprising and appalling to hear! Although sexism is still rampant in Australia in terms of employment, women are now more liberated in terms of dating and asking for what they want. They are no longer constrained with the traditional notion that only men could like and enjoy sex. In fact, Australian women are now more open with what they want in a relationship, whether it may be a commitment or purely sexual relations. Women are more empowered and secure with themselves, knowing they have the right to have and enjoy sex without expectations or labelism, and most especially knowing that they have the right to say no to sexual advances of men without being afraid of being labelled.

Now, most casual dating portals also ensure that they make their services particularly attracting to women, with some even offering free memberships for their female users. Women also feel safe knowing that most casual dating portals have report and block functions that allow them to avoid harassment from other members of the site.

With the evolution of the internet, casual dating portals now have a more streamlined and more professional look, and look more discreet than before. Upon our tests, we also noticed that contrary to the perception that unattractive and insecure women are the ones who resort to online services, we found more very attractive, sexy and confident women in these sites.

Is Casual Dating Difficult? Is it disappointing?

We listen to the users of these portals and make it a point to get their feedback from time to time. From the responses we gathered, Australians are quite surprised to discover that the sites are very user-friendly and that makes them very excited. Their surprise is more associated to not expecting that they will have a great experience with the portals and then having a blast on their meetings.

Like in any product or service, there are of course some disappointed users as well. Most of their disappointments are rooted from false and exaggerated expectations from the sites and a handful from their own incorrect behavior.

You probably want to have the best experience possible in trying out these sites.

That is why we put together these three important points to serve as a reminder for you:

Tips for Casual Dating

Expect Nothing

Even with claims one-off cases like a man meeting up with a hot supermodel within hours of signing up, remember that it almost never happens and do not expect it will happen to you. Even if you look like Wolverine (Hugh Jackman), you must still not expect that you could schedule a meet-up with someone looking like Nicole Kidman right at the start of your search. Of course, it is still possible and you can hope, but do not expect too much. 

Respect Everyone

Being at a portal specifically designed to get hook-ups does not give you the license to be vulgar, malicious and disrespectful. Besides, it has been found that those who are too direct have very low success rates in getting responses. Be decent and respectful even in your “indecent” proposals.  

Security

As much as you think you know the person based on your long chats and Google searches, remember that he/she is still a stranger. Will you let a complete stranger alone at your own place on your first date? The best place to meet for the first time is at a coffee shop, a bar or any other public place